acceptance vs expectation

                                   Acceptance Vs Expectations 

Have you ever wondered when things don't work as you wanted them to work, you are filled with anguish! anger! frustration! sadness! self-doubt! The reason of your feelings are your expectations and your lag to accept things.

Expectation refers to a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future while Acceptance involves receiving or taking in what is offered or given.

Usually, expectations are reason of our sadness because things don't always work the way you want it's the nature that governs it. When we expect outcomes, we often set specific standards or conditions for how things should unfold. It may be achieving your goals or dreams, expectations from our near ones to act in way we want. Expectations can become rigid and limiting, especially when they don’t align with reality or when circumstances don’t meet our predefined criteria. While Acceptance allows us to move from a place of self-criticism to one of self-compassion. By accepting what “is,” we create space for growth and transformation.

Let's see some of our common household situations.

A teenager who wants a bike at the age of 15-16 expect his parents to give bike because one of his friends own a bike but parents refuse to give because of age factor. The teen screams, cries, refuse to eat and do what not because teen lags the power of acceptance.

In same way we usually expect our near ones may be our spouse, our friends, our parents, our friends to do what we want and follow our liking's and disliking's like you had an argument with someone in past you don't like them anymore you expect your near ones to dislike them but they might be on different pace with them and many a times we fail to accept this fact and worse things .Expectations kills you from inside whereas accepting nourishes you.

When you are in a relationship, and you had a fight.

Did you ever analyzed why you had fight, what were the actual reason behind it?

if yes, 

Majority you will find that the reasons are your high expectations from each other and not willing to accept each other. It may be dressing up, eating habits, expenditures, difference in opinions. we continuously try to change each other if outcome don't favor us it leads to disturbed mind full of anguish. We blame others for our sufferings because they don't meet/fulfill our expectations.

Ever asked yourself is this correct?

Everything happens for our own good- This proverb should be accepted in life. Accepting others and accepting Your destiny should be part of life. Getting disappointed on little things is not going to work. For a happy life set realistic expectations and accept others for who they are don't force your opinions on others. The power to accept things as they are gives us peace and harmony. 

Expectations can lead to rigidity and disappointment, acceptance opens the door to authenticity, self-love, and compassion. Embrace what "is" rather than focusing on what "should be".